"Trust patience."

There's no coincidence that patience is the first characteristic made in 1 Cor. 13:4, that it's considered such a virtue. In ALL affairs, with patience comes definite answers. Utilize the time to stay true to self & obedient to righteousness & before long clarity of truth will be visible, shining bright before you.

"You're Beautiful."

"There's a difference between looking beautiful and being beautiful. One refers to your outward appearance, the other your nature. I'm more concerned with the latter, so I sure hope when people say "You're beautiful" they are referring to my essence. For outward beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Inner beauty is an undeniable truth."

"Isn't That Beautiful?"

"I think people underestimate the power of honesty and the beauty of testimony. For part of our journey's beauty can be attributed to it's ugly moments, our ability to rise from the bottom. We're not always on the top. But we rise. Isn't that beautiful? And such beauty couldn't manifest without, at some point, being at our lowest. So share the story honestly--it's glorious or will be."

Many people put on the facade that they have it all together--lying about who, and what, and where they are.  All the while they fail to realize that this moment, this current (or past) position and condition has great benefit to their life story. With that said, instead of having... shame and lying about it, use your position and condition as motivation to change, to RISE. And then who you USED to be wouldn't be in vain and will be a GREAT part of your testimony--and testament of the greatness of grace, mercy, and will power!!!

"Never Ask A Man..."

"Never ask a man for his time because a man will always make time to do what he wants to do."--Cedric Wright | Apply this wisdom to all relations, and you’ll have many days of peace. For the question of your significance to them or their consideration of you will be answered. It'll definitely result in less time ...spent wondering, "Why?". Answer's simple; they didn't find you worthy of their time.  When my friend, Cedric, shared this wisdom with me, he was giving me advice regarding a man I was really interested in a few moons ago, but even after that season I remembered his advice and now I apply it to everyone with whom I interact.

I have found that when you really accept the reality of that wisdom, you'll be humbled.  In all fairness, you are one of many things that someone could be concerned with, so get over yourself!  (At least that's the attitude I have come to take.)  And if you find that someone tends to not be able to make time to do something for you or with you, then you may soon get over them. It all falls into place and, by the time it does, you would have already gained some peace from it, as you had everyday you applied the wisdom.

"Why are women more thirsty for love?": My response to the question

I thought about your question "Why women are more thirsty for love?"  Well, I am not sure 'why women are more thirsty', but I think I do know why people thirst for love--romantic love.

So, think of all your relationships.  Your relationship with your grandparents, your cousins, your parents.  All those relationships were not of choice.  You have or had no control of your relationship with them.  (Even if you choose not to have a relationship, you are biologically tied to them.)  Now think of your relationship with others.  You have classmates, professors, employers, and even friends.  Now, yes, these relationships are by choice.  These relationships may be valued, but even with your friends, whom I would expect you to be the closest with of all the above chosen relationships, there are still barriers, boundaries, that can't be crossed with your homeboys or with your platonic female friends.  There are areas that your friends can't enter and satisfy.

So, it's safe to say that romantic relationships are the only relationships formed by choice that do not have boundaries.  In romantic relationships I would hope that both individuals can be open, can be vulnerable with the other person.  That is why most sane people take the time to make sure the person they become romantically intimate is kosher because the person they choose is given the ability and the permission to permeate areas that your friends or even your parents cannot.

Being that women are generally more romantic from conception, I can understand why romance and love would be a constant desire.  From childhood we were taught that Cinderella needed her Prince Charming to save her from the evil stepmother, that Jasmine needed her Aladdin to take her on a ride on the magic carpet, and that Barbie needed her Ken to go along with her Malibu Beach House.

Women desire to be desired.  Cinderella was chosen out of all the girls at the ball, Aladdin chose Jasmine out of all the women in the kingdom (Maybe her being a princess had something to do with that, I don't know.), and I would assume Ken chose Barbie out of all the Mattel dolls.  I want to be chosen.  I want to be chosen as someone's #1 pick.  I want to be chosen as someone's friend that can get so close, so close that he chooses only me to get inside of.  The only one he chooses to release himself with physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually.  You can't get much closer than that.  With me he chooses to share his body; with me he chooses to share his deepest, darkest, most uncomfortable secrets; with me he chooses to tell me what's on his mind, what he really thinks; with me he chooses me to be one with him and journey with him as spiritual partners.

Truth is, most times you have to share your mother with your siblings, share your grandparents with cousins, your professor with classmates, share friends with friends however, you never have to share your man or woman with anyone else, at least not in the same capacity because romantic relationships are exclusive and there is only room for two.

Women just want to be exclusive, they want someone they don't have to share in the same way.  Even when a woman has a man she have to share him because there are many roles of a man (as they are for a woman), but she never have to share him in the role he plays for her.  She is the only one worthy of experiencing that role because he chose her to be his supporting cast, his co-star.  No one else.

I think it's a shame that men, based upon your question, don't desire as much or thirst for romantic love as much as women.  i am sure they would enjoy the safety, the thrill, the beauty, the freedom, the happiness, the warmth that results from such a relationship.  And to think all those perks (and more) would be consciously exclusive to them.

Bliss Like This

Sometimes I imagine sex
I imagine making love
and it's like I can feel it,
I can feel someone on me,
someone behind me,
someone touching me.
And it feels so good.
And as I imagine, I hope that when I do
make love it could at least feel like
this, like bliss.
Like I want to come out of my skin
and stay in it.
Like I want to escape my skin because
I don't deserve such bliss but
I want to stay in my skin because
no one but me deserves this.

The Cave and Explorer Concept

This bliss I imagine...
I hope I can give that to a man.
Sometimes I feel intimidated by
the thought of making love...
because making love has a lot of
responsibility.
It's just not about me, it's about him too.
I know that it is socially accepted
that men have sole responsibility
to provide the pleasure and that the
responsibility for the woman ends when
she decides and allows it to happen.
I can only imagine such "rules" have been
accepted because women possess this
dark cave that bears light once
explored, a cave with many unknown
depths and spaces that the exploration
of it alone provides the adventure, the
bliss.  It's up to the cave explore to make
the exploration interesting.  Honestly,
when thinking of this cave and explorer
concept, I imagine it is a good metaphor.
For anyone can explore the cave, but
at what lengths (no pun intended) is the
explorer willing to go to discover the
wonders of the cave?  Is he only going
to explore the entryway of the cave?
Is he going to explore the walls of the
cave only?  Or is he going to explore the
cave until he gets to the end,
until he gets to the bottom, 'til he explores
each crevice, each space of the cave?
I guess that, in the case of the explorer, is
a lot of responsibility, for, although the
woman is born with this cave of unknown
space, she is providing a possibly great
adventure... if the explorer explores it
right.  Her trusting him and granting
access to him is a lot of responsibility
in itself.

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Don't ask where this "concept" came from.  *smile*  I don't remember.